Reconciliation

Reconciliation... 

What a glorious, yet, possibly the most terrifying thing to ever exist.

It causes us to die to ourselves and be remade new. 

It causes us to face some of our biggest fears about ourselves.

It causes us to be a better person.

We are called to reconcile by the Lord with everyone in our lives whose paths have crumbled.

You may be justified in your choice of not reconciling with someone in your life, but God asks us to put aside our fears, our pride, and our emotions so that we may open the door to welcome those people back into our lives who we once turned away.

Why?

Because God is greater, He knows best, and He loves all of us more than we will ever be able to imagine. He created Heaven for us all to rejoice in His MIGHTY Name, but how do we rejoice with one another in the body of Christ if we all do not get along?

We can barely function in a room of people if the person we dislike and want nothing to do with is in it, so how do you expect to function in Heaven in undying love if you cannot learn to love your enemies who may also be in Heaven alongside you? 

How do you let someone back into your life who hurt you so bad?

So bad to the point you wished to cease to exist…

God asks us to reconcile and to love one another because He did the same for us. God asks you to open the door for you to be reconciled with your enemy, but He doesn't ask you to put yourself back into harm's way. There are boundaries to be made for your own safety. You can love someone and choose to never speak to them again. You can love someone and choose to only see them in a public setting. 

You can love someone and choose to forgive, but never cross paths again. 

The point of reconciliation is not always allowing those who hurt us back into our everyday lives, but to allow love for them into our hearts so that we no longer have any ill feelings towards them, or that we may no longer allow the feelings they caused us to feel to take over your mind or heart again. That simply someone we once knew so well just simply becomes a stranger.

Reconciliation isn't always an open door to friendship or relationship, but so that if you were to ever cross paths with them again, they no longer may take up any negative space in your mind.

Reconciliation is telling that person you forgive them and that you love them. You can tell them over text, a letter, or even face to face, but be sure to try to say it directly from yourself and not through someone else's word of mouth. 

Reconciliation is saying "Hey, I know I was very hurt, and so were you, but I just want to tell you I forgive you, I love you and I hope you can forgive me, too, however, I do not think it is smart we remain in contact. I wish the best."

Or

"Hey, I forgive you, and I hope you can forgive me. I love you, and I hope we can move on."

You word it to fit your situation with that person. Don't worry about bringing up the past; the why's the how's, but fill your message with love and forgiveness. The rest will follow in appropriate timing and on God's command.

Even if you think it's not fair. If you are the bigger person, you would make the first move regardless of whose fault it is and regardless of the situation. 

Reconciliation... it will change your life.

"Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you." Colossians 3:13 NIV.

Amen.

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